I had a student who suffered seriously from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). People often use this term to refer to kids who are just spoiled and undisciplined, but this kid was the real deal. I wrote about him before, in this posting. When he entered my class, he was about 13 years old, and about 5 feet tall. He could not stand still to save his life.
He eventually grew to be over six feet tall, broad-shouldered, strong and smart. There were still signs of his ADHD issue, but he no longer disrupted the class. As he approached his shodan test, his only problem was that he seemed lazy. If I walked beside him and yelled at him, he could do excellent technique. Left to himself, the technique was relaxed and drippy. The issue was self-discipline, pure and simple.
If I provided the discipline, he did fine. If I stepped back, he slacked off.
I set up a special shodan test, just for him. I told him that I'd give him the black belt when he proved he could stand absolutely still for one full hour.
You could see the wheels spinning in his mind. He wasn't sure he could do it. For the next few weeks he practiced standing still at home. He started with five minutes, then ten, then twenty and so on until he felt ready to attempt the full hour.
On the night of the test, I stood him facing the wall and hung a timer around his neck on a string. I draped the timer down his back where I could see it but he could not. I set it for 60 minutes and walked away.
We ignored him and went on with the program. Justin Butler was visiting, so the rest of the class had a jujutsu seminar. We were loud and we were interesting. Our testee never glanced at us. He stood resolutely still, eyes locked forward.
I didn't realize how special this situation was until I glanced at the visitors' area and saw some guests. We had the testee's grandfather, his youth pastor, and a visiting school psychologist as witnesses to the test. They watched him intently for the full hour, amazed to see him standing still for the first time in his life. Afterward, they told me they would never have believed it if they had not seen it themselves.
Self-control is learned behavior. Until this challenge, this student had never really wanted to learn it. He was content to let the control come from others.
Now he wears the black belt. He knows his karate and jujutsu, but more importantly he knows something about himself. He knows that he can obey the rules when he wants to. He has the control. He has the discipline. Everyone has seen it.
No more excuses.